Numerology/Astrology for 3/17/16 - Plus Personal Blog
~Suzanne Wagner~
Whether we realize it or not we are all bumping up against each other’s shields that hide the deep wounding from our past. We want people to have a relationship with those shields and to not have others look underneath the patterns of behavior that we using to protect our most delicate and vulnerable selves. It takes great awareness and conscious clarity to feel another’s shield as you bump into it and to not allow their shield to further wound you. Rather, you might want to look for what that blockage is protecting. Often, that is a deep insecurity and hurt that had a devastating effect on them. The deeper the wound and the darker and stronger the shield will become. An example would be control. A person who feels a deep need to control situations, might have clearly been broken, demoralized, overridden, and put down to such an extent that they have learned to control their external world in such a way that they cannot and will not be wounded to that degree again. The level of control that a person operates from tells you the level and depth of the wounding. And that shield out of love can be cast beyond their own energy field and they may try to protect those they love the same way. Often those family members do not understand why the pattern is there and they react negatively to it creating their own pattern of wounding around their own particular issue. Control patterns are coming from a distorted pattern of love. They share their shield and what has worked for them with others in the honest attempt to not have them get wounded either. But to some (who do not understand that this level of control is about protecting them from harm), they can get very frustrated with that level of control and take this form of love as a lack of trust, they may think that the controller perceives them as stupid, not smart enough to figure it out, or incompetent. Then that person feeling controlled will over-react and push away from the one controlling them. They will want to find others who do not put that kind of pressure on them and they will allow in weak people and create circumstance that do not challenge their insecurity. The result is instead of confronting and healing the problem; the problem grows and shape shifts depending on each person’s reaction to the pattern. It is difficult to step beyond the wounding and see each other from the place of love and vulnerability rather than the masks and faces that we project onto the world. Remember, no one is the mask that they project. Defensive postures and reactive patterns are telling you that someone is hurting badly or that they are caught in protecting some vulnerable place inside. Today, try to look to the opposite pattern someone is presenting and ask the question, “Where did that pattern come from? What might have caused this level of defensiveness?” Only through taking the time to sit with someone’s pattern from a place of no judgment can we begin to understand another. Only by being willing to understand each other can we create a world of healing and love for all.
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